In a world where we could have just about everything we want at a moment’s notice, we have to pick and choose where we allocate our energy and always remember that while good things are fleeting,

A wise young man in a fancy red car once said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” And honestly? He was onto something (for once, I’m not just talking about the car!)

Today, let’s talk resets for when life has its pedal to the metal.

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Most of our days consist of one thing bleeding into the next, with no clear beginnings or endings. Moments blur together, and with so many transitions packed into a single day, it’s easy to let the emotions from one moment spill into the next.

Our lived experiences shape us, but not every feeling deserves to hitch a ride into what comes next. Sometimes we don’t have the luxury of unpacking the past when we still have to get shit done now.

Below are six scenarios and the resets I take where slowing down, even just for a moment, helps me move forward with intention instead of reaction. When life comes at you fast, these resets keep you present, clear, and able to make the most of whatever’s being thrown your way.

No Moments with Maurice today, there is plenty of work to be done below 😉

We’ve all been there. You sit down for five minutes for a quick break, only to look up hours later with no recollection of the copious amounts of 10-second animal videos you just watched. But social media can feel so addictive that it leaves our brains buzzing and keeps us wanting more. No one walks away from a doomscroll session feeling more productive, creative, or emotionally regulated.

When I catch myself doomscrolling, I’ve usually gone down a rabbit hole, or a pattern has formed. But because it’s so hard to actually learn and retain anything from 60-90 second reels, I turn away from micro-consumption of social media and go in search of longer formats. My go-to is YouTube due to its large collection of niche and tailored content. Want to learn about the exact chemical makeup of car paint? Monkey poetry? The making of a building? Well, you can probably learn about it on YouTube. Soon after, I’ve scratched the itch of wanting to consume something, but I’ve actually learned and retained something I’ve been interested in. You never know what new topic is going to ignite a passion for you!

Prepare for the reset: What types of content are addicting for you? The kind that makes it hard to pull away and leave you feeling “dirty” and unproductive? Steer clear of those when you need to reset yourself!

Reset yourself: When you catch yourself in a doomscroll, take 10 minutes to read or watch something on a topic that caught your eye. If you claim you don’t have enough time, then I’ll ask you how much time you just spent swiping…

Whether speaking, coaching, or interviewing someone, my goal has always been to build community and hold space for others. Walking into these interactions where I can open doors for others, be it helping them discover new things about themselves or share their gifts with the world, is the part of my work I love the most. Especially during in-person classes, the energy is electric when we’re in a room together working towards a common goal of bettering ourselves. 

Because I am so hyped up, I don’t need to take a moment of stillness or reset myself; I work best riding the wave. But I do need to do something to focus all that energy, and I remember how grateful I am that I’m doing what I love. I also remind myself that there are a lot of firsts in these experiences: the first time someone is taking my class or telling their story. The first time they are opening themself up to a new situation. If my goal is to continue to build community, I have to tailor my actions for the ones who are new there. 

Prepare for the reset: Why do you enjoy the best part of your day? This could be work, family, or anything else. Why do you look forward to it? What makes you grateful for it? How does it feed into who you want to be in the world? Knowing these things can help you shake other emotions that might be getting you down.

Reset yourself: Come up with a mantra or a few words to say before walking into the situation above that reminds you of why you love it. Use it when you start having trouble doing the thing you love.

I love the feeling of safety and things that feel familiar to me, which is why I am the biggest procrastinator when it comes to making a decision I’ve been avoiding. Historically, I have not been the best at making proactive decisions with my life, which means I’m re-living minor discomfort repeatedly because it’s easier to exist in the known than take a potentially painful step towards the unknown. Sometimes, decisions and changes come with initial pain and discomfort, and while it dissipates over time, leaving a better situation, it’s never fun to live through. 

That’s why, when it comes time to make a decision I’ve been putting off, it’s my brother who reminds me I have to get uncomfortable and make a damn decision! None of this indecisiveness. He reminds me to evaluate if I’m putting off making a decision because I’m avoiding discomfort, or if I'm just lazy. What am I scared of losing?

Prepare for the reset:  If you were to make a to-do list each day over the course of a week, what would repeatedly come up? If the same things are bothering you or taking your energy, you might have to have some hard conversations with yourself.

Reset yourself: Is it easier to live with your discomfort over and over again because you’re afraid of change? Or is it better to make yourself uncomfortable for a short period of time to feel relief and move yourself forward?

If this happens, it means I’m not doing something that makes me excited or happy. It means I’m viewing everything as a chore or an obligation, and the lack of creativity is becoming a sticking point. If I need to shake this and reset myself, I know I need to find something that allows me to disengage from my life and focus elsewhere. Recently, I discovered pottery was one of those things, as it required me to spend a good chunk of time focused on what was in front of me and not be able to check my phone. 

However, my tried and true favorite for delivering inspiration has always been taking a drive or photographing my car. “It’s not just my form of transportation, it’s my muse and my de-stresser.” Maybe you’re rolling your eyes, but you gotta laugh that this could also be considered the best sales pitch for a car ever, and it does the trick.

Taking my car for a drive to a location where I can photograph it disconnects me from everything else and forces me to focus on what’s in front of me and the unique image I can capture. Soon, I start to see connections around me I wouldn’t have otherwise, and I’m back to feeling inspired, and bringing that to the rest of my life.

Prepare for the reset: Ask yourself what type of creative pursuit helps you find new angles or see new connections. What can occupy your full attention and allow you to flex a little bit of creativity? This could look like doodling on scrap paper, writing a poem, re-arranging something… or even photographing your lawnmower. Hey, whatever gets the juices going.

Reset yourself: Put your phone on “Do Not Disturb” and find at least twenty minutes to immerse yourself in your creative pursuit.

Speaking up and advocating for myself is something that comes naturally to me; however, I’ve had to learn how to come at it calmly and with intention. When something feels unfair, dismissive, or hurtful, the feelings surface fast, but it can distract from the point I’m trying to make. The conversation becomes about my feelings, not about the tangible things that need to be addressed, and it’s like talking to a wall; nothing is getting through.

Now, when someone says something that triggers or upsets me, I try to think back on the facts and come up with receipts. My emotions begin to feel more balanced, and my reactions less tumultuous. I can clearly express what is needed

Prepare for the reset: Does telling you to never delete anything in case you need to bring the receipts count as good advice? 😉 Probably not, instead, get specific: what exactly needs to change, and what facts support that?

Reset yourself: Take a few breaths to gather your thoughts and connect with the facts. Remind yourself that Clarity is not confrontation. Calm is not weakness.

There are days when all it takes is one notification ping, one side comment, or one point of frustration to hang a black cloud over my head. I can’t shake what I’ve experienced, and I bring it into every interaction and conversation for the rest of the day. I’m on edge, curt, less understanding, and snap easily (to name a few fun reactions). It’s only human to experience these emotions (even if I try hard not to), and it’s hard not to hold on to stress, but it’s not fair to bring them home to my family. It’s especially hard coming home or walking into any situation if you feel you need to be “the light” to those around you, the “weather maker,” so to speak. 

On days when I’m feeling like my stress is like a liquid sloshing around in a cup, in danger of going over the sides and spilling on everyone around me, I try to fit in some time for myself that quiets me mentally. This looks like going for a drive or eating a meal, because if I’m hungry, then I’m HANGRY and no one is going to enjoy that. If I don’t have that, I ask for a few minutes when I come home to be by myself. With no outside input, I can self-regulate and pick apart what I’m feeling and why. I can separate external stress from what is going on at home and make sure that there is plenty of love to go around. Frankie approves!

Prepare for the reset: What actions do you take that almost always release tension, calm the mind, or improve your mood? Find short (5 minutes), medium (15 minutes), long (45 minutes- 1 hour), extra long (2+ hours), and full-day ways to spend your time that allow you to give your family the best version of you. 

Reset yourself: Are those who I’m coming home to deserving of my energy? Do I need to course correct? Find a way to give yourself at least five minutes of buffer time between when you finish up with work and when you enter the presence of others. This can look as basic as sitting in the car for five extra minutes outside your home doing breath work, listening to a song, or screaming into the void (hey, I don’t judge). Make sure you share with your loved ones what you’re doing, especially if there is friction with you not getting home as fast as possible. Be open about why these few minutes to reset allow you to show up in your best way possible, and discuss ways for the rest of your family to get the same time.

Here’s to the people out there achieving their Great Things!

Many of you shared your experiences and thoughts on social last week about men not feeling comfortable acknowledging when something starts to feel off, whether it be physical, mental, spiritual, or other. It gives me hope that there are so many out there who aren’t okay with things staying the same and want to improve upon it. Don’t forget that agreeing with this statement is one thing, but putting it into practice is another.

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Because no matter what, there is always something to smile about.

You know what I say… if you don’t squeeze your glutes, no one else will you’ll never be a tight end. Mixing things up at work is always a blast, although I prefer to hit the weights hard as opposed to a tackle.

Coming at you straight from the group chat to this newsletter, Mamma wants to remind you to stay present and enjoy it. Almost like you might need to reset yourself every so often to do so… 🤔